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How Will You Rate Yourself?


It’s that time of the year. The hustle, the bustle, the mad rush. Getting swept along in the holiday mania can happen all too easily. And before we know it, it’s New Year’s Eve and we’re taking stock of the year. How will you rate yourself?

The loudest voices criticizing our life (and daily) choices come from within our own heads. That’s not to discount them. Rather, to acknowledge where they are really coming from. A colleague of mine once said, “If our thoughts are like baseball pitches, most of us are pitching ourselves no-hitters.” Think about it. The last time you were feeling down, defeated, depressed, or otherwise not great, were your first thoughts the stuff of pep talks? Or did you pile on a bit? I’m a piler. At least initially. Maybe it’s just me… but I doubt it.

I’ve found that engaging in open-ended pondering on how the year went leads me to self-flogging. I’m an absolute ACE at calling out all the things I didn’t do, the things that went wrong, and other ways I think I came up short. Learning that open-ended questions in that scenario don’t help me was a lightbulb moment for me.

Instead, I need a more focused approach. Questions encouraging me to name all the tons of things that went GREAT this year is a good start. If I’m running out of ideas too quickly, I get more specific. How about in repeat business? How about in number of satisfied clients? How about really fun engagements? Relationships? Sales? Marketing? Business development?

Then I limit the number of things I’m allowed to name that didn’t go well. They have to be things I did, not things I wasn’t able to get to or didn’t do. Another criterion is that they had to be in my control. No point in evaluating things over which I had none.

So, how will you rate yourself on this year? I hope you get high marks. Because I feel confident that you deserve them.

If you’re interested in taking a deeper dive into some guidance on reflecting on the year, check out the links below. They’ll take you to the three-part blog series I did on this last year.

Why reflecting is important

Ideas on how to reflect

What to do with those insights


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