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Power of the Collective


I attended a retreat for women entrepreneurs last week. It’s the same event I attended last year at this time. I wasn’t sure if I should go again, but I’m so incredibly glad that I did. I was reminded of the incredible power of the collective. When great minds from different backgrounds, experiences, and perspectives come together with a common goal, amazing things happen.

So why the hesitation on going?

Normally, I make decisions pretty quickly without needing a ton of certainty to feel comfortable moving forward. But this time, I struggled with the decision to return. I wasn’t sure it was intended to be a repeat experience. I wasn’t sure the facilitators really wanted me there. I felt like a little bit of a flunky for going back, like I didn’t “get it” the first time.

It turned out that it was all just head trash. 

Once I got there and met the other women around the table, I knew I’d made the right decision. As we got to know each other, we were all amazed by the number of common experiences we shared. Most importantly, we quickly realized that as different as our personalities, ages, and backgrounds were, we all wanted the same things out of the experience. Validation. Support. Encouragement. Ideas. Direction. Permission to be badasses.

And that’s exactly what we got. 

By the end of the two and a half day experience, we were all buzzing with ideas. We’d formed strong bonds. We were all inspired. We didn’t want to say goodbye. We’ve been blowing up our shared private messaging app ever since.

When was the last time you experienced the power of the collective? Has it been too long? What can you do to seek it out? Is there any head trash getting in the way? Do you believe you deserve it?

In case you need to hear it, you do deserve it. Go get it. Whether it takes the form of attending a conference or retreat, a day with your closest friends, or something you decide to create, the power of the collective is real. And, well, powerful. Not to mention healing. I hope you seek it out. And if you do, come back and tell me about it. I’d love to cheer you on.

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