It’s so interesting to me how pressure affects different people so, well, differently. Some people seem to speed up and work themselves into a frenzy. Others seem to shut down and become immobilized. And I think we all reach a breaking point where we simply can’t take any more. What happens to you when pressure …
People don’t change. Not nearly as often or as drastically as we like to think. Sure, you can name exceptions. But big, sweeping, life-altering changes are not an everyday occurrence. A wise and seasoned executive told me once that big changes shouldn’t be the goal. Instead, we should focus on making one small shift at …
“It’s easier if I just do it myself.” Probably true. But is that the best solution? Is efficiency the reason? Or is it the excuse? When we focus on immediate efficiency, we’re being short-sighted. Routinely doing it yourself because it’s easier is a mistake. It doesn’t allow for people to grow. Watching someone fail is …
We face situations all the time where we aren’t getting what we need. I find the most difficult things to ask for are the ones which are less concrete. Asking for help in doing a physical task or solving an IT challenge is one thing. But to ask for what you need in terms of …
Conflict is felt differently by people depending on many factors. Hard-wiring certainly plays a big part. If you’re hard-wired to prefer harmony, you’re more likely to experience conflict more easily. If you’re hard-wired to be more comfortable with pushback, you probably tend to not even realize when you’re creating conflict at times. Regardless of your …
Last week, we talked about getting clarity on outcomes. This week, we’ll focus on other types of agreements you can make up front at a meeting or in a one-on-one. Both are ways of answering the question many of us ask (at least in our heads) as we walk into such an engagement. What am …
What’s your point? It seems like such a rude question to ask that we’ve stopped asking it in any form. Early in my career, before I was aware of the need to put any sort of filter on my mouth, I asked it often. The reaction I usually got was one of shock. Like, how …
“What’s your one thing?”, the facilitator asked me. I just looked at him. I have far more going on than just one thing, I thought. I was embarrassed, indignant, skeptical and puzzled all at once. One thing? How the hell do you narrow it down? There’s a great book by Gary Keller and Jay Papasan …
Why do we always need to look for fault or someone to blame? Why don’t we stop more often and look at ourselves before pointing a finger at someone else? You know that old saying, “One finger pointing at someone else means four fingers pointing back at yourself” or something like that. Why are we …
One of our hard-wired tendencies relates to how easy it is to adapt to new or changing situations. On one end of the spectrum are the folks for whom it is very uncomfortable to adapt unless specific conditions exist. If those conditions do not exist, they will likely push back, become flustered, and their stress …
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